The internet has been kind of hurtful lately. In the space of the last week or two, I have been the victim of many different rude and negative comments. I’ve been blogging for over four years, but it never really gets any easier for me to receive negative comments. I take them way too personally, and as much as I try to shrug them off, they seem to creep into my mind during those hours when I’m tired and vulnerable. These comments also attacked my personal character and integrity, and even my ability to be a good mother. Since I’m already pretty critical with myself, it certainly didn’t help to have some of my insecurities reamed back in my face.
What I don’t understand is why people are still doing this. What can it benefit? How does leaving rude comments help anyone? Will the victim of such offense sincerely take the comments as constructive criticism and say, “What a good point! I’m going to change.” No! And they shouldn’t. Because through the internet, it is almost impossible to give loving and helpful criticism. There’s no way to determine the voice inflection and feel any love that might be intended. That being said, I’m pretty much 100% positive there was no love directed towards me in those negative comments.
There will always be trolls; they just exist. There’s no explaining why they are the way they are. And sometimes you can be a victim of their cruelty. It really does boggle the mind to try and understand any kind of truly human nature beneath such hateful words. But it hurts even more when you actually know the people and respected them.
Can we please stop the negativity? Let’s remember the old adage: If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. But more importantly, let’s support each other. Stop seeing everyone else as competition and try to find ways to help everyone. My personal goal with this blog is to inspire others to find their inner creativity and try something new. It does get hard to be heard in a world of trillions of comments and millions of blogs. But if I can reach even 10 people today and one of them goes out and tries one of my projects or recipes, I will be so happy.
I am not innocent of the comparison game. So many times I see other bloggers or other women getting what I want or already have what I wish I had and I get begrudging and envious. But I’m trying to stop because there is one thing I always tell myself: Everyone has their thing.
Everyone has a demon that hurts them. Even if it appears that they have the world at their fingertips, you might not see the pain they really are feeling for a particular trial. Some women who I love to hate because of their naturally skinny and toned bodies, perfect hair, and seemingly perfect lives…get to know them a little better and you can learn that they also have sad times, things they wish were different, and insecurities. There is no way to live this life without them.
So why would we HELP others feel more insecure? Are we on the side of the devil? Because those bad thoughts and negative comments come straight from hell. There’s no good that comes from them.
Please help me spread love. I’m not perfect, of course. I have fallen prey to gossip or whathaveyou. But I’m really going to try to ditch the negativity in my mind and my life and start helping others…sharing their victories and applauding their efforts. I want to highlight one person every day who has inspired me. I want to drown out my own insecurities by so much love that it becomes second nature. Instead of getting depressed from social media about the things I don’t have, I will rejoice that my friends are having a good day.
It’s not going to be easy all the time, but it will be worth it. Because I’m SO tired of the competition and negativity that exists in my world, I’m tired of feeling like I’m not good enough. And I need to show those internet bullies that they don’t affect me. That I am rising above their pettiness and shaking them off.