I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. So many people say, “Marriage isn’t easy. It takes a lot of work.” That can be true, definitely. Men and women are totally different species and they have very different ideas about things.
Sometimes I find myself looking back at my single days with a little longing. The freedom to do what you want, with whom you want, when you want. The freedom to get dressed up and go out and flirt with boys. It was a lot of fun! But there’s one thing that I tend to forget about being single…being racked with anxiety every day about each and every relationship, wondering if my boyfriend really did like me, where we would end up, what I should do for a career, etc.
And after remembering that, I have come to this conclusion for myself: Marriage can be hard. But it’s a heckuva lot easier than being single!
I have been very fortunate in my marriage. My husband and I have never really had any huge issues. We have definitely had more difficult times and the dishes argument never seems to end. But as we approach five years of marriage, The little arguments seem to get littler and less frequent. I have a wonderful husband, and while neither of us is perfect, our marriage grows stronger each year together.
But how do you help your marriage to grow stronger each year? You have to be committed to working on it. You have to talk out your problems, keep the romance alive. Don’t know where to start? A great website out there is TwoOfUs.org. It’s got great tips on keeping your relationship fresh whether or not you are married. Anyone can benefit from spending some time on this site. There are articles for every situation, great videos from experts in the field, and other fun little polls.
I watched this one video, by actor and author Hill Harper. He does these parties called Conversation Parties where everyone submits questions about relationships and themselves. The questions are mixed up in a hat and then randomly pulled out and discussed. It’s a great way to get people talking, he says, which is after all what keeps relationships alive! This is just one example of a helpful video on the site.
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What are you biggest relationship roadblocks?